How to Write Your Own Vows: Wedding Vows Ideas

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Why and When do We Say Wedding Vows?

The official definition of vows says that wedding vows are spoken before God during the wedding ceremony. “The lifetime commitment of these promises and statements are represented when you give the rings to each other, as a symbol of unending love”.

Vows serve as an intimate moment during the ceremony. The couple is about to exchange rings as they express their love, commitment, and promise to be there for one another.

It is not a surprise for a couple to write their own vows. It actually gives you an opportunity to personalize them. Your guests will love to hear the things you say to your future husband/wife. Every love is unique, so every wedding vow should be.

If you have wondered how to write wedding vows, look no further. This guide will help you learn things you need in order to write perfect vows.

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How to Write Wedding Vows?

The most important thing about writing vows is being honest and speaking from the heart. Putting feelings on paper isn’t the easiest task. Follow these tips and you will have your vows in no time.

Know Why You’re Writing Your Own Vows

While some couples opt for classic vows, others like to personalize them by writing them on their own. This should be a joint decision of both partners. Sometimes, one partner is religious and wants a classic vow, others want something modern. Knowing why you are writing your own vows is half of getting the perfect vow.

Make Sure to Say “I Love You.”

These words are the most important part of your vows. Saying I love you is crucial, however, many couples leave those three words out their vows. Probably by mistake. So, not to make the same mistake, make sure to write them in your wedding vows.

Share Personal Stories

Make your vows sound real. Don’t be afraid to share all good but also bad things that happen between you. Your guests will love to hear something interesting as well, so don’t hesitate to share something funny and quirky, an anecdote about your relationship.

Actually Make Promises

As we have mentioned, vows represent written promises to eternal love and commitment. Don’t tell anecdotes only, but make sure to actually make a promise to your partner. Whether you promise him or her to always be by their side, you can also promise to make breakfast every morning, or something else funny.

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Tips for Writing Wedding Vows

Here are some tips for writing the best wedding vows. Besides other preparation for wedding like choosing a wedding dress or suit, you should keep them in mind and the results will be great.

Start on Time

Don’t wait until the last minute to start working on your vows. Start on time – the best time to start is three weeks before the wedding ceremony. During that period, you will have enough time for finding inspiration and thinking about some interesting stories.

Make Drafts

It might take days or weeks until your final wedding vow comes to the desired shape. Make at least three drafts, reread what you have written, and add things that come to your mind. 

Talk with your Partner About Vows

You will be more comfortable if you decide about the style, format, and tone of the vows with your future husband or wife. Make a deal about sharing content, what stories you will include, but save the latest versions of your vows for the ceremony day.

Get Inspired

Some people get inspired while watching their favorite movie, others while listening to their favorite band or artist. You can also read books. You will be surprised how many words there are that you might not think about.

Surround Yourself with Memories

Surround yourself with items that remind you of you and your partner. They will remind you of the moments you spent together. Those first movie tickets or photos of your first holiday – ideas for vows will simply come up.

Read Out Loud

When you have your final version ready, make sure to read it out loud, simply to hear how it sounds. Also, that is a great way to catch any grammar mistakes or to reformulate some sentences if you don’t like how they sound.

Wedding vows examples

Wedding Vows Examples

Wedding vows examples can serve you as an inspiration for your own. Fortunately for us, there are plenty of these templates and examples that you can see before starting working on your own vows. This traditional wedding vow sample can work for both him and her.

I [name], take you [name], to be my [husband/wife], my partner in life, and my one true love. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.

Funny Wedding Vows

For Her: “I promise if there’s only one dumpling left, I’ll let you have it.”

For Him: “I promise to love you and take care of you even when you get real sassy.”

Religious Wedding Vows

I, [name], take you, [name], to be my [(optional: lawfully wedded) husband/wife], my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

Modern Wedding Vows

I love you, [name]. You are my best friend. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle.


Wedding vows take some time to write, they make you put your emotions on paper, but it is worth it. You will say them out loud in front of a person you love, on the day of your wedding. Hope you get the tips and that you are writing your vows right now!

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